Wednesday, 2 March 2016
Malaysian Political Survival - Working With The Enemy
The enemy of my enemy is my friend is an ancient proverb which suggests that two opposing parties can or should work together against their common enemy. The passions of hate arise from several features of our thinking process. These include wanting to assign blame for misfortune, protecting our self-esteem, a desire to strengthen our community, the need to avoid toxins, alleviating our fears, and several types of errors in errors in reasoning . The ability to quickly separate friend from foe is essential to self-defense and safety and provides the origins of hate.
It was so coincident that I was just finish my reading on a book tittle "Working with the Enemy: How to Survive and Thrive with Really Difficult People by Mike Leibling and in real life it is happening right now in our country. I am not trying to promotes or advertise this book but the content so coincidentally happening in real life.
The book describes survival strategies working with 15 difficult personality types. It shows how to take control of an enemy situation and turn it around. It's also clarifies what makes these enemies so difficult and how to deal with them to prevent future difficult situations. Generally the book show us how to understand what we are doing wrong and gives advice on how to handle ourselves differently. The many case studies, tips, techniques and strategies very useful to respond to the "enemy" in a thoughtful, strategic, and constructive way.
The ability to quickly separate friend from foe is an essential survival strategy. This primitive skill forms the basis of hate. Because mistaking an enemy for a friend can be deadly, mental processes are biased toward doubt, caution, mistrust, and dismissal in evaluating others. Another basis of hate is Egocentrism, the unshakable belief that “I am correct”, self-justification, and the need to be right leads us quickly to the conclusion that others are wrong and they are the obstacles that need to be eliminated. We start denying all the contrary evidence .
Who do we hold responsible when bad things happen? If we want to affirm our stature , preserve our self-esteem, avoid shame , and preserve our pride , it does not help to blame ourselves. So we conveniently assign blame to “them”, him or the “others”. As usual, in this line of reasoning which based on the fallacy of disproportionate responsibly and the fallacy of being right, some might probably share in the blame along with many others, including unavoidable bad luck. Final say.......it's all about hate and personal vengeance that can turn an angel's into demon's.